the only thing i dont like is the dark grey hovers... its very distracting :> otherwise pretty!!

You can define a lot of things in the "engine 'murrine'" part of your .gtkrc

engine "murrine"
{
scrollbarstyle = 3 # Enable or disable circles, stripes, handles
menuitemstyle = 1 # 0 = flat, 1 = glassy, 2 = striped
listviewstyle = 1 # 0 = nothing, 1 = dotted
glazestyle = 1 # 0 = flat hilight, 1 = curved hilight, 2 = concave style, 3 = top curved hilight, 4 = beryl style
scrollbar_color = "#RRGGBB"
contrast = 1.0 # Lower values make for darker colors, higher values make for brighter colors
hilight_ratio = 1.0 # Lower values make for darker highlighting on glaze, higher values make for brighter highlighting on glaze
menubarstyle = 3 # 0 = flat, 1 = glassy, 2 = gradient, 3 = striped
menubaritemstyle = 1 # 0 = menuitem look, 1 = button look
listviewheaderstyle = 1 # 0 = flat, 1 = glassy, 2 = raised
roundness = 0 # 0 = squared, 1 = old default, more will increase roundness
animation = TRUE # FALSE = disabled, TRUE = enabled
}

thanks, ive already learned most of that. its mostly what is setable colorwise for certain sections that im looking for.